PARENTS

WOULD YOU KNOW IF YOUR CHILD IS BEING BULLIED?   You'd be surprised.

Every 7 minutes a child is bullied.

Adult intervention - 4%.

Peer intervention - 11%.

No intervention - 85%

We no longer live in a world where the big kids bully the small at lunchtime.   With social networking, internet, twitter, facebook, etc.. it is possible to be bullied in front of thousands of people 24 hours a day. 

There are real people cause real damage to your child.   Does your child feel comfortable talking to you about it?

 

 

Recent bullying statistics admit that half of all bullying incidents go unreported.

Over 100,000 students carry a gun to school bullying statistics say without their parent knowing.

In a recent study, 77% of the students surveyed said they had been bullied.

Each day 160,000 students miss school for fear of being bullied

The same school bullying statistics and cyber bullying statistics poll also showed that 282,000 students are physically attacked in secondary schools each month.

 

1. Listen to what your child has to say.  Ask your child, “What can I do to be helpful?”  Be open and neutral when he’s talking.
Remember, he/she is the victim, so trying to find a reason for why he’s “bringing it on himself” really isn’t helpful. Never blame your child because it makes them anxious and reduces what they will tell you.

2. Don’t retaliate against the bully or his family.

3. Coach your child on how to react: Bullies tend to pick on people who they can get a reaction from; they choose kids who get upset and who take the teasing to heart.

4. Find a teacher or administrator at your child’s school who will help.

5. Take your child’s side.

6. Get support: Be sure to talk to your spouse or to supportive family or friends.

7. Find something your child is really good at doing.

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In the past 25 years, while suicide rates have dropped:
TEENAGE SUICIDE has tripled.

  • Recognize the behavior. Trying to ignore it won't make it go away. Help your child accept that there is a problem and know that you will help him or her through this difficult time. Help your child understand that he or she is not to blame.
  • Role-play. Practice, practice, practice ways to respond to hurtful comments or actions until they come naturally. Help your child think up different scenarios and different ways to respond in them. Have fun with this-make up absurd or outrageous situations. Also, practice using humor as a way to be assertive. Sometimes saying things like, "Oh, please! You've been watching too much TV!" or simply, "I don't need that!" and walking away can stop bullying. This creative thinking can help your child relieve tension and gain some feeling of control.
  • Encourage your child to pursue interests in a different environment. Assure your child that he or she will meet friends who value him or her. Help your child look for areas of life where he or she feels accepted, likeable, and normal. And help your child find opportunities to develop well-balanced friendships.
  • Talk to school leaders. If the bullying occurs in certain social situations or school activities, sometimes it is just best to remove your child from the situation. It is not always in a child's best interest to "stick it out." Often, in fear of causing disappointment, children do not want to tell their parents that this is the solution they prefer. Ask your child if he or she really wants to continue to be in the activity. If the bullying occurs in a general school setting, work with teachers and counselors to help your child not be around those who bully.
  • Stay out of groups who bully others. Sometimes a child who was shunned before will suddenly be "invited" into or back into a group. Talk about the fickle nature of such friendships. Ask your child how he or she would feel if pressured to exclude another person. Help your child discover the qualities of long-lasting and true friendships.
  • Let your child know you are always there for him or her. You may not be able to come up with the perfect answer for the problem. But you can help by telling your child that you will always be there to listen and to help him or her think about new ways to handle being bullied.

 

YOU CHILD MAY NOT ALWAYS BE ABLE TO stop people from saying bad things, BUT he/SHE does have THE control ON how to respond.

 

In addition to your help, recommend they also speak to a teacher or possibly a mentor like one below:

 

CYBER MENTORS
http://www.cybermentors.org.uk/
At CyberMentors you will find a highly trained and supportive army of young people to offer a real-time support and assistance with bullying and other issues that may be affecting your child's wellbeing. This website is also staffed by counselors who can also talk to them right now, if that's what they'd like to do. To get started, have them simply register  and they can begin chatting. It's that simple to get help.
 
 

 


 
REPORT A BULLY MORE HELP
Make sure your child's school is linked up to a program like the ones listed below.  It only takes one parent to make a difference in the lives of not only your children, but your entire community.


REPORT A BULLY

BULLY ALARM
 


If your child's school is not participating in these options, it's probably because they don't know about them yet.

 

STOP BULLYING NOW
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